How do I set boundaries with family members?

Setting boundaries with family members is an important step to maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your well-being. It’s natural to want to avoid conflict, but establishing clear limits can actually improve communication and mutual respect over time. A respectful way to say no is to be honest yet gentle. You can acknowledge their feelings or requests while clearly stating your own limits. For example, saying something like, “I really appreciate you thinking of me, but I won’t be able to help with that right now,” or “I need some time to focus on my own priorities, so I can’t commit to this.” Using “I” statements helps keep the focus on your needs rather than blaming or criticizing them. It also helps to be consistent and calm, even if they push back. If a family member doesn’t respect your boundary immediately, gently but firmly reiterate it. Over time, they will likely come to understand and respect your limits. Remember, setting boundaries is a form of self-care and doesn’t mean you love or value your family any less—it simply means you’re taking care of your own mental and emotional health.